Air Date: 10/04/12 Everyone has times of illness. People have to use their own physiological process to deal with the illness, and although one may believe they know a better way to deal with the medical crisis, this is not the appropriate time to challenge the sick person's methods. The stress of the circumstances is already difficult and fighting with a spouse will only make it more taxing. The gentler strategy is to find out their process and then support them on it. Gender differences make it difficult in these times because of the stark differences. Men for example like to be independent and don't like to ask for help, but still want to know they're cared for. Then, there are the difficulties of who to tell about the condition and how much to tell. There are questions that need to be answered about how much they will want to know about the condition compared to how much you need to know. And it's important to know whether or not they want to be accompanied through the doctor's visits and procedures. It's a tough balancing act for the caregiver, but its' important to follow their lead. This week Dr. Jankovich offers suggestions on how to approach these questions and what to do to balance each other's needs. Dr. Rebecca Jankovich airs Thursday mornings on 88.7 FM, KUNR, and can be reached at 775-322-1839.