All of us can get lazy in relationships, but it isn't a very good idea. Relationships need constant tending. One thing to keep a constant eye on is the amount of negative talk. Venting, complaining, criticising, is all negative talk. Being assertive and communicating to solve couple problems is good. Complaining about them is bad. It's far more interesting to talk to your partner about positive things than it is to talk about the negative. Venting is really not good for anyone despite the belief that you have to offload somehow. This week, Dr. Jankovich talks about reframing your negative thoughts to stop thinking about a problem over which you have no authority to impliment change on this edition of "Relationships." Dr. Rebecca Jankovich airs Thursday mornings on 88.7 FM, KUNR, and can be reached at 775-322-1839.