Blaming your partner for something unavoidable that’s already over, is harmful to your relationship. I’m not talking about blaming a partner for bad decisions that were clearly under their control like infidelity. I’m talking about getting fired, being in a car accident, or the flight is cancelled.
The blamer says they’re just telling the truth, reporting the facts; as though the blame is justified. The blamed one might just take it for a while to not make things worse; but eventually they’ve had enough and they fight back. Here we have an unavoidable situation addressed with blame which prevents the couple from joining as a team to solve the problem. Your partner might know you’re blaming them even if you don’t say anything because they can read you. Change your thoughts to cut your partner some slack; you’re in this relationship for the long haul so treat them as a team mate and be kind. It could have been you in their place.
