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Relationships with Dr. Rebecca Jankovich


Dr. Jankovich's Relationship Minute airs Thursdays during Fresh Air, between 2:37 and 2:47 p.m.

Dr. Jankovich has been working as a psychologist since 1974. She works with a range of problems including relationships, depression, anxiety, sleep disorders, grief, trauma, and struggles with life transitions. Rebecca practices what she preaches to not burn out by leaving the office to ride equine races with her horses, and travel the world.

Ways to Connect

When you diminish your partner’s feelings, opinions, reactions…you only create resentment and resistance. 

When your alcoholic partner gets sober, you expect to feel exuberant-you can relax and have the relationship you believed was possible.  Only, that’s not what usually happens.  

Using yourself as the frame from which to decide if someone else’s reactions are normal, is a really bad idea, yet it's something we all seem to do.  

No one escapes having regrets; the longer you live, the more you have.  Regrets for a decision made, or a choice you didn’t make; regrets for foolish behavior that lead to bad outcomes; regrets for self- destructive acts, regrets for a path not taken.  

With the instant access of cell phones, parents, especially mothers are complaining that when they contact their children, it can take hours or even an entire day, for their child to get back to them. 

Wonder why you’re more tired doing your work through video platforms like Zoom, Facetime, or Skype? 

Emotions and concerns about the future have been running high with the sequester and the pandemic.  

Many are struggling with the fear of not being able to predict that’s going to happen because of the COVID 19 pandemic.  What we read, the news we hear, keeps triggering our fears about possible changes in the future; like not knowing when the economy will rebound. 

When there’s an agreement for change, partners tend to keep the agreement for a few weeks, then someone falls out, and the agreement fades.  

Blaming your partner for something unavoidable that’s already over, is harmful to your relationship.  I’m not talking about blaming a partner for bad decisions that were clearly under their control like infidelity.  I’m talking about getting fired, being in a car accident, or the flight is cancelled. 

You have a buying problem if you’re spending more money than your budget allows, hiding your purchases, neglecting other responsibilities because you are shopping, or your shopping is causing problems in your relationships.

Just because you have memory slips and you’re over 50, does not mean you are heading for dementia.  If you are over 50, it’s common to have someone’s name slip your mind; to misplace things; to struggle to find the right word; to walk into a room and forget why you went there.

Our ideas about pedophiles are changing. We used to think pedophiles acquire sexual attraction to children because they were sexually abused themselves as children.  Not so.  

Research confirms when kids participate in team sports with supportive coaches, they learn to be more resilient, have better social skills, and improved self-esteem. The resilience may come from learning to accept that they don’t always win. 

Interrupting can be disrespectful.

Why people jump in and take over the conversation.

If you use marijuana your kids are far more likely to use as well.

We're learning more about the effects of marijuana.

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